When I heard hip hop artist JusTme say that I felt myself well up. How often is my heart in one place, my mind in another and my body completely offline?
Right before I sat down to write this blog, I said goodbye to my husband, but my mind was on the blog. My heart was probably with him; I have no memory of what my body was doing. By splitting my self, I lost something precious. I lost me. And, I lost the chance to really feel him, his care for me.
It wasn't until I did some mindful breathing and listening with JusTme that I realized how juicy and sweet bringing my mind, heart and body together is.
How many times a day do you lose yourself? How often do you feel neglected and spent at the end of the day because you've been separating heart, mind and body?
When I go around multi-tasking and disconnecting from my body or my heart, I find myself thinking like a victim: Nobody's helping me. I'm alone. Nobody's going to do this except me.
If you're mad at everyone and doing things without knowing why or if they are important, you may have left your heart or you body. Are you avoiding feeling sad or abandoned?
When my body goes offline, I'm more likely to catastrophize about the bills, my son's health, global warming, attacks on black life, etc. Then, I'm nervous, afraid and uncreative. When I'm separating from my heart and body; my mind on its own is just too negative and defensive.
Does this sound familiar?
Here's what you can you do to bring the mind, body and heart into the same place and same time:
- Take 2 minutes to get back into your body.
- Set a timer for 5 minutes to breathe mindfully and kind-fully. Inhale gently through the nose and exhale through the mouth quietly. Just focus the mind on the breath. When you become aware of thoughts, just focus back on the breath. What's important is that you do this without judgement of how good or bad you are.
- Throughout the day: Feel your feet on the ground; when you drink, feel the liquid in your mouth and throat; periodically check in with your heart and belly and ask how they are feeling.
- Look for a course or weekly group activity that will help you to sustain your practices. Most of us do better in community than we do alone!
Peace and love!
Dr. Amanda Kemp